Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Non-Negotiables

Inspired by my brother Matt's post (mattpana.tumbler.com), here are the qualities I look for in my future wife:

-Christian: This makes the top of the list, and it's not because I'm super-holy or pious. I simply know that my Christian upbringing and faith is the foundation of what makes me me, and I realize now that it's imperative that my future wife and I share the same values and belief systems. However, I'm looking for a Christian woman who has her heart set on God but her feet still on the ground...a woman I can pray with who also wants to pray with me...a woman of faith who understands she still lives in the real-world and needs to respond to real problems in a practical way....a woman who prays as if everything depends on the Lord and who works as if everything depends on her...a woman who will be my accountability partner when it comes to my relationship with God. I'll take a woman of faith over a Maxim cover-model any day.

-Responsible: I'm not the kind of guy who usually hangs out at clubs or bars. I don't find it immoral, it's simply not part of who I am, how I live my life, or how I spend my money. Honestly, drunkeness, smoking, and doing drugs are all huge turn offs to me. However, I'd like to be with a woman who wouldn't mind having a beer with me at a bonfire or BBQ in the backyard every once in a while.

-Training: Next to my faith, my combatives/martial arts training is a huge part of who I am. It helps reinforce my faith, and my ethics. It defines how I eat, sleep, and go about each day. My future wife doesn't have to have a black belt or be a hardcore martial artist, although I would really find that attractive. I just need a woman who understands what it means to train...a woman who understands the importance of protecting oneself and one's family...a woman I could entrust to help me protect our family should the need arise...a woman who knows what it means to train regularly and to keep healthy and fit. I feel I have been called to the path of warrior-leadership, and I need a woman who understands that and is willing to walk that path alongside me if possible.

-Honesty: Speaking from experience, I know I need a woman who isn't afraid to speak her mind and who will openly communicate with me and those close to us. I believe that communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. Without honesty, there is no communication, nor is there any trust.

-Simplicity: I love a woman who finds excitement in the little things, such as going to the movies on Friday night, going to local fairs, going to bonfires, walking around a charming small-town you've never been to before, or long walks in the park on sunny days. When it comes to activities, I tend to be a guy who appreciates the simple things in life.

-Conversationalist: Anyone who meets me for 10 minutes will know that I talk, a lot. It'd be great to meet a girl who can keep a conversation going.

-Attractiveness: Needless to say, I am looking for a woman I am physically attracted to. Basically, a girl who looks beautiful with or without makeup, a fancy dress, or fancy clothes...who takes care of her body and keeps active.

If you know a girl who fits this criteria, then let me know.

If you are a girl who fits this criteria, I ask only one thing...

Where do I find you?